Controversy: Father Donates Sperm for Son's Baby
In England, people are buzzing about an interesting fertility story that's raising a lot of eyebrows. When his son couldn't have children of his own, one man donated his sperm so his daughter-in-law could conceive a child...Here's an interesting question for you: If your hubby's sperm wasn't viable to make a baby, would you ask your ... father-in-law to donate his so you could get pregnant?
That's what one couple in the Netherlands did, and the case made its way into a report discussed in the journal Human Reproduction. Yes, this means that the baby's legal father would be the biological half-brother of the baby, and the grandfather would be the biological father.
While not illegal, most fertility clinics and experts caution against the practice of intrafamilial assisted reproduction because it can cause confusion on the part of the child, and leave donors questioning their role in parenting.
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Priteer, I have never heard of a father marrying his dead son's wife in those cultures, although in our country and others there seem to have been quite a few of the Woody Allen(?) marrying/having a sexual relationship with the adopted(?) daughter types and incidences of incest have been reported.
You also mentioned incidents where the brother marries his dead brother's wife .. the operative words are dead brother's wife and in the other instance you mention is where a woman who is unable to bear children would permit one of her 'handmaiden i.e. maid/personal servant/slave who is not related to her, to be impregnated by her husband. The woman also had control over her handmaiden/maid/servant/slave, so the likelihood of an ongoing relationship ( like being his mistress) of her servant with her husband is unlikely.
It was not as if she would give one of her daughters or daughter-in -laws to her father or her husbands father to be impregnated by them. It was not as if the woman was going to have sex with her father-in-law so as to give her husband a child either. Those things would have been taboo in those days.
What if this woman's husband's infertility problem is genetic? Couldn't that be passed on to her child in which the child may have fertility issues too?
If I were her and my spouse had infertility issues I would not be looking to my father-in-law for his 'input'. If these folks are willing to do this what else would they be willing to put up with? Plus whose child is it anyway? Or .... who is the baby's daddy? LOL There have been instances of surrogates who refuse to give up the child once the child is born.
Isn't this woman just being a surrogate for her in-laws? Under these circumstances what if something should happen.. eg like a divorce.. couldn't the father-in-law gain custody of the child? After all he is the biological /actually the father of the child.
If the daughter-in-law should die, couldn't the father-in-law gain custody of the child as he is the biological father of the child? Isn't that why annonymous donors are used?
What are they going to tell the child when the child is an adult? How are they going to explain to that child that his grandfather is actually his father?
Then we wonder why there are so many people in therapy blaming their mother or their parents...their mother or their parents really did skrw up their lives after all... LOL
Many years ago a lesbian couple wanted a child of their own. The pregnant woman used the sperm of her partner's brother. She certainly did not use the sperm of her partner's father and she had no sexual interest in any males either.
Also many years ago there was a case on one of those daytime talkshow programs, where the stepmother of young man used her stepson's sperm to get pregnant as the boy's father had had a vasectomy. Later on it really skrwd up the that youngman's head. He was finding it hard to reconcile with his particpation in the matter because he was now realizing the child not so much his step- brother but really his son that he had with his step-mother. He also started feeling quite uncomfortable around his step-mother and his relationship with his father became awkward. Can't recall what was the outcome, whether the family stayed together, but this youngman's little gift seem to have impacted the whole family negatively in the final analysis.
An annonymous donor is a better option imho.
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