The Little Move That Screws With Your Confidence
The sitch: At happy hour, your friend who you haven't seen in a while asks you what's new.
You say: "Ugh, nothing...I'm sooo boring."
Instead try: "I've been so excited to see you all week...it's been forever!"
The sitch: Your pal asks you if you remembered to invite her new guy to your party.
You say: "Damn, I forgot! Worst friend ever right here."
What you should say instead: "Wow, totally spaced. Sorry about that...I'll invite him now."
The sitch: You order the onion rings at dinner.
You say: "...Annnd this is why I hate my thighs."
Instead try: "Anyone else want some?"
The sitch: Your parents' friend asks if you've been dating anyone.
You say:"Only losers! Guess I don't attract the good guys."
Instead try: "No one that deserves me."
The sitch: You're splitting the tab with a few friends at dinner.
You say: "I'm so dumb...can someone who actually has a brain do the math?"
Instead try: Reach for your iPhone and say, "Hang on, gonna need my calculator for this one..."
The sitch: Your friend tells you that you look hot in your mini skirt.
You say: "Thank you, Spanx."
Instead try: "You look fab, too!"
The sitch: Your co-workers tell you the cupcakes you made are awesome.
You say: "Yeah, I'm really good at opening cardboard boxes."
Instead try: "It's my secret recipe!"
SOURCES: Christine Hassler, life coach and author of 20-Something, 20-Everything; Marni Battista, Los Angeles-based relationship expert