How to Handle a Work Setback
Take a Moment to Process It
If you're stuck at work for a while, head to the bathroom and take a moment to be upset (although if you feel like you're going to cry, hit up a bathroom on another floor so your coworkers don't catch you). Remind yourself that it's just a setback, and in a month, it'll be easier to deal with.
Dole Out Congrats
Yeah, it's hard to be amped for someone else when you feel like you got sucker-punched, but people will be looking to see how you react to the news. So if a coworker got a promotion that you felt like you deserved, swing by her desk to say congrats. Feel like you can't be sincere face-to-face? Write her an email. Just keep it short and sweet like, "I just heard the news. Congrats on the new job!"
There's probably a reason why your coworker got the promotionis she always "on" in meetings? Does she get really good feedback from clients? Or does she have a little more education? Whatever it is, take notes. Maybe there's something you can improve on that will help you score the gig the next time around.
Don't Let It Get You Down
Remind yourself that just because things didn't work out this time doesn't mean they won't next time. And chances are, it's not going to significantly affect your life.
Vent to Your Friends
It always helps to talk it out, so call up your girls and have them over for drinks. They can probably offer insight on the situation and advicenot to mention a sympathetic ear.
Meet With Your Boss
Wait until a few weeks after your coworker got the promotion, and then ask your boss for a meeting. Don't mention your coworker's promotion (you don't want to make it seem like you're whining), but reiterate how much you love your job and say that you'd love to eventually move up within the company. Then ask if there's anything you can improve on. Take the feedback she gives you and use it.
Make New Goals
Whether it's a work goal or something personal, like training for a half marathon, focusing on a new project will help you move forwardand get you amped for the next best thing.