'Snow plow' parenting: Helping kids?
Move over, Tiger Moms -- a new parenting trend prevents children from failing.
First there were Tiger Moms. You may recall the extreme style of parenting made (in)famous by Amy Chua's best-selling book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.
Then hovering 'helicopter parents came on the scene -- the overly-involved, control freak style of child rearing.
Now, an all-out mommy war is brewing as a brand new moniker of parenting style comes under attack, "snow plow" parenting.
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According to an article on ABC7 San Francisco’s website, "the 'snow plow' parent pushes life’s obstacles out of his or her children's way."
Instead of parenting from a place of healthy involvement, these parents try to eliminate potential roadblocks and pave a straight line to their kid's success.
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In the ABC7 story, one mom talks about how she used her "snow plow" powers when her son was going out for a basketball team.
"I brought lemon cupcakes to a baseball practice once and realized the coach doesn’t like lemon. So I went home and baked vanilla cupcakes and brought them to his house that evening for his family to share," she was quoted.
In San Mateo, Calif., Aragon High School athletic director Steve Sells tells ABC7 it's apparent in sports, "A lot more money is spent on club activity outside of school," he was quoted. "And a lot more in the way of private lessons."
Kids are pushed to succeed in one sport, and as a result, Sells sees over-use injuries at a young age.
"They're teaching their children a terrible lesson," Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, Ph.D., told ABC7. "If you're not good at something immediately, get out. It's humiliating to be a novice."
In the grand scheme of growing up, what happens if your kid doesn’t get to experience the thrill of winning and suffer a few hard knocks along the way?
Do you think "snow plow" parenting helps or hurts children?
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Thankfully my parents taught me how to live in the real world. One thing I remember my mother saying when, as a teen, I was complaining about how difficult something was. She looked me right in the eye and said "Your entire life you'll run into walls. When that happens pick yourself up and try again. Either go through it or around it. But don't sit there and complain about it."
I suppose moms of today would carry the child in their womb until they get married...and then some.
Wow newlife1979, you mean parents are supposed to raise functional, competent, capable adults? Novel concept. You mean at some point kids need to learn you earn what you get? You will experience success AND failure and need to find benefits from both?
Wish more parents felt like you. When you clear the obstacles from your childrens path they become crippled and will not know how to function to overcome the obstacles that they will have to face without you.
A butterfiy who gets "helped" out of its cocoon, instead of working and struggling to get out has wings that are so weak it will never fly.
murders? Why do you think so many young people are on anti-depressants, become addicted to drugs and alcohol, commit suicide or can't cope with life? Mom and Dad fixed everything for them and never let them overcome anything bad. Now that they are on their own, the economy is bad and Mom and Dad can't fix the adult problems they have, they can't cope.
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