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How to help the community of Newtown

As we grieve, we can also give

By Parenting Magazine Dec 17, 2012 4:31AM

In the wake of the unfathomable tragedy at Sandy Hook School Friday, people all over the world have been aching to do something, anything to help. The following are a few organizations that are accepting donations for the community: 

The United Way has set up the Sandy Hook School Support Fund.

“United Way extends our most sincere condolences and prayers to all those families affected by the devastating events in Newtown/Sandy Hook, Connecticut. While the eyes of the world may be on Newtown/Sandy Hook, to several staff, volunteers and contributors, Newtown is home. We will stand with the community and everyone affected directly and indirectly by this tragic event as we face the days and weeks ahead,” the United Way of Western Connecticut’s Web site says.

Donate jar // Veer // Courtesy of Parenting.com

Check donations may be mailed to:

Sandy Hook School Support Fund
c/o Newtown Savings Bank
39 Main Street, Newtown CT 06470

You can drop a donation off at any Newtown Savings Bank branch location.

Or you can donate by credit card online.

Plus: Should you tell your kids about the shooting?

The American Red Cross

The American Red Cross of Connecticut provided more than 50 units of blood platelets and plasma to the Danbury Hospital, where some of the victims were transported, spokesperson Melanie Pipkin told the Huffington Post. The organization has also distributed food and water to first responders and is setting up a family reception center that will provide initial grief counseling, but they do not anticipate needing any more blood donations going forward. More here.

Newtown Youth and Family Services 

Newtown Youth & Family Services, Inc., a nonprofit mental health clinic, will be open this weekend from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. to provide emergency counseling to families, community members or staff. All donations made to the organization will benefit those affected. Find out how you can help here.

Newtown Parent Connection

The Newtown Parent Connection, a nonprofit that addresses issues of substance abuse, also offers bereavement group counseling and will to try to bring in additional counselors to accommodate the needs of those affected by the  shooting. More here.

New York Times "Your Money" Columnist Ron Lieber posted the following suggestion on his Facebook page this morning:

Buy the community of Newtown, CT some breakfast, lunch or dinner. You can call King's Breakfast & Lunch at 203-426-6881 or call My Place Pizza at 203-270-7061. I told them to send pizzas and give meals to whoever needs it. I just called Kings and they were unbelievably grateful. Or look on Yelp.
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Who could do something like this?
Hope, in the face of tragedy
Another horrifying, senseless blog post

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Dec 19, 2012 12:09AM
J.KTrev - I think that an educated robber would probably break into the house with the firearms. Because as an educated person myself, I think it would be stupid to break into a house with someone home. I don't care how educated anyone thinks they are with handling firearms & I am all for the right to own a gun, but NO ONE other than military and law enforcement should ever be able to own anything that fires 30 rounds. and even then maybe the police should shoot someone holding a knife a very few times in the hand, arm, or legs instead of 15-20 times in the chest.
And a lot of you are right. People are the problem. More should push for more gun control on assault weapons. It will not solve the the PROBLEM, but it will help, in my POV, quite a bit.
No one is telling anyone not to own a gun for protection.
Along with rights comes the RESPONSIBILITY for those rights.
And I'd much rather not own a gun and get shot myself than to live to see another story of babies getting killed for Christmas.

Dec 17, 2012 5:31PM
if u talk to some teachers, there has been violence and threatening behavior by students for years.  i know a lady who tought in a catholic school who told me some of the students said and did some of the mosthorrible of things. the students came to class and made these remarks.  if they are coming to class with these things ready to be said, i wonder where th are getting the ideas to say such things.  not in the class.  i think that the homelife of these kids is more perverse than we think.  
Dec 17, 2012 5:24PM
as was the 9/11 event, people should know that they do not have to spend endless hours watching or reading about the conn. tragedy.  it is ok to turn it off.  it is ok to watch a comedy.  it is ok to not be involved 24 hours a day listening about what happened.  do what is best for u and what keeps u sane. don't let anyone shame u.
Dec 17, 2012 5:13PM
Do NOT give to the Red Cross or United Way!!!! The money you send them goes into some big shots pocket. Give to the local community fund raisers.
Look anywhere and you will see that those two groups have the biggest debt, and the $$ goes to no one to help them.
It took the red cross over a week to do ANYTHING, when Sandy hit the east coast.
Think before you send your money out there.
Dec 17, 2012 5:09PM
United Way...they pay their executives hundreds of thousands. Sorry. Sending a letter to your U.S. Representative would serve best. Prayers of course.
Dec 17, 2012 4:22PM

Yes, Mental health services need to improve across the Nation,

JOIN NAMI - the National Alliance on Mental Illness - most states have local chapters, there is support for moms, families of those with mental illness.  There is support - do not be silent - THANK YOU for writing this article. 

Dec 17, 2012 4:15PM

When I first heard the horrifying news of the tragic killings, the first thing I thought was those poor, beautiful children: then Oh my God their parents, then I started praying. I want to know what has happened to a beautiful, wonderful world?

I am a mother of an 11 and 15 year old. I can't even begin to imagine what these people in Newtown is going thru. i know I spent most of the day friday with my eyes glued to the TV. My son was home sick and he kept saying to me "mom aren't you done watching that yet?" I don't quit think he realized, even at 11 years old, what had just happened. At the dinner table that night my children and I said a prayer. I still don't think even the ages they are that they are realizing the tragedy that happened. I don't think it has sunk in.

The day before this horrific tragedy, my husband and I found out that our 11 year old son has been being bullied at school and in our neighborhood. We just recenty moved to the town we live in. I never imagined anything like this would happen to my kids. That is the problem with alot of us parents, we take out kids for granted. We assume they are always  going to be with us. But in a split second, a horrific tragedy can take them away from us.

This morning, as I took my kids to their bus, I couldn't help but think about friday. As they got out of the car i told them to have a good day and that I love them as I do evey morning. One thing I feel is very important, is we let our children know just how much we love them. Tell them every chance we get. 

Alot of you are bringing up about violent game and movies. We have to face it, violence is eveywhere in the world. I live in a small town in Ohio, it is nothing for me to turn on the news and for the first 10-15 minutes they are reporting on shootings and killings that happened in Columbus. THAT IS SAD! It's not just in the city of Columbus, but that is a big part of Ohio where this is happening.

I feel it starts with us parents. We need to teach our children right from wrong, Instill it into their minds. I grew up in a home that my father was a hunter. We had atleast 20 if not more guns in out home. My dad taught us right from wrong when it comes to guns. He instilled it in our minds. I myself do not care for guns. But we need to remember something, guns do not kill, it is the handler of the gun that kills.

We as parents try to protect our children, but I feel at times we can't do enough to protect them because of the way society is now. All we can do is do our best when it comes to our children. I feel if we notice something is off with our children, then we need to get to the bottom of it. Don't let it go.

We can take some control again it starts with us parents. It may sound as though I am placing blame, and I apologize if it does. Please understand I'm not placing blame on anyone.

God Bless all the people of Newtown and God Bless all of you !


Dec 17, 2012 3:31PM
I have nine grandchildren four of those were adopted from a violant situation.  Violance has become a way of life in this country.  We and our children see violance all the time in movies, tv, games, news, etc.  Remove this from our childrens lives and American will see a different generation of people. My heart has been broken for the children killed.  My prays are with the parents.  God Bless the Children. 
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