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Couple regrets conceiving twins

A husband and wife fear twins will ‘ruin’ their family.

By Kristin Wong Sep 9, 2013 6:32PM

After struggling to get pregnant for nearly two years, a couple recently discovered they’re having twins via in vitro fertilization. You might think they’re excited or elated, but you’d be wrong. The words they’ve chosen instead:

“We're [mad]. And terrified, and angry, and guilty, and regretful."

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The anonymous couple recently wrote about their reaction to having twins on Babble.com, where they lamented their fears and frustrations:

“I’m trying not to be so bitter and embrace what’s ahead of us. It’s possible these kids will sleep at some point, I suppose. In the meantime, I’ve promised to stop referring to one of the boys as ‘extra’ and have told my wife I will try to refrain from calling my first-born son ‘the free one.’”

Lack of sleep and strained finances are just a couple of hurdles the couple dreads. In the wife’s post, she acknowledges that her feelings aren’t popular, but reassures readers that she loves her son and is sure she’ll love his brothers equally.

“But for now, I’m having trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.”

Read the husband’s reaction here and check out his wife’s here.

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Sep 20, 2013 8:30PM
Wow! Instead of thinking of all the negatives. Focus on the joy of the occasion and the little MIRACLES of life you will be receiving. I would have loved to have had more than one and couldn't and there are many baron women that would love to switch places with you. your sure you'll love the other one just as much. you should already be loving them equally..  SAD
Sep 19, 2013 8:41PM
fn idiots should have never got pregnant then!

Sep 19, 2013 2:41PM
I would have been thrilled to have had twins.  Since this couple is so put out, they can adopt one of those twins out. I can't believe there is so much resentment against these unborn twins and makes me wonder how they're going to be treated once they're born.  These people are pretty scary and need a visit from social services.
Sep 18, 2013 2:17PM
My heart goes out to these babies. Maybe what people don't realize moms can feel like this if the are experiencing post partum depression. You may needto check into seeking out some help if you begin to feel like this. Continueto go through the motions and take care of your babies and one day you may realize you love them and not even realize when it started. Prayers for this couple.
Sep 18, 2013 1:28PM
Wow.......Just because you want a baby doesn't mean you should!!!!  My sister and I both had twins 10 weeks apart, no drugs involved.  We both thought we were the luckiest mother's to be alive.  They were not our first children either.  That was 32 years ago....I had 4 children, and my sister had 5.......I wish I could turn back the hands of time and do it all over again!   You two sound like Big time losers and don't deserve having any children never mind being blessed with twins!. 
Sep 17, 2013 6:38PM

for petes sake don't keep these babies with this horrible attitude! many childless couples will be glad to adopt them! ya'll need to get professional help! I can't believe a doctor actually performed in vitro for you! you have no where for the babies to live and in all likely hood they will suffer neglect because of your wife's impending post partum depression. please find a loving couple now. your ob will be happy to help you!

Sep 17, 2013 4:56PM
WOW! you people are unbelieveable. "be careful what you wish for" really comes into play with this. You and your husband spent 2 years trying to have a baby and God has blessed you with 2 beautiful babies and your mad? Make up your fukcing mind!!!! This has me irritated so much. You wouldnt get sleep with 1 baby, So what difference will 2 make? I bet you're going to sue your in-vetro doctor. I can just tell you are that type of people. The ones who sue for stupid siht!
Sep 17, 2013 4:48PM
I have a set of boy-girl twins.  And it is hard.  But here is the good news -- after about three years, they start playing together and become easier to care for than singles.  Those first three years passed in a blur of very little sleep.

When they got sick -- wow!  Those were bad nights.

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