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I’m a single mom, and it took me a solid three years to go on a date after my son was born. It’s funny how, when you’re a mom, dating isn’t just about you -- it's about your child. Whether each man I date knows it or not, I’m testing him from day one. Does he like kids? Will he be more into his BMW than me? Are his boys his priority?

So while dating should be fun, exciting and a break from the tough parts of single motherhood, don’t waste your time with anyone on this list.
1. Sugar Daddy
This is the guy that tells you about his yearly bonus, designer suits and finds a way to ease the topic of money into every conversation. According to Leah Klungness, PhD, psychologist and coauthor of The Complete Single Mother, guys who love to flash a big wad of cash and talk nonstop about their jobs reveal their life priorities. “It's all about things,” Klungness says. In other words: He’s not looking to settle down or meet your kid anytime soon. “He's insecure and desperately needs to demonstrate control,” she adds. So what if he ordered an $80 bottle of wine at dinner and drives a nice car? If he didn’t compliment your dress or ask about your day, he’s not the one.

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2. Text-Only Guy
Texting is an easy way to communicate a quick hello or an “I’m running late,” but face it, dating as a single mom is different than dating as a single woman. You likely can’t drop everything for a date, or sleepover midweek, so this means you really need to keep the communication flowing to compensate for the lack of face time. If he’s not down to chat for 20 minutes on the phone or Skype after your baby is asleep, he’s not dating material for you.

3. Deadbeat Dad
You may know how crazy it can be to coordinate with an ex when it comes to visitation and finances. So you might be tempted to let it slide if a guy doesn’t see his kids often "because his ex is crazy" or he "wasn’t ready to be a dad." But don’t.

“The blame game antics are lame cover-ups,” Klungness says. “His choice to abandon his kids -- emotionally or financially -- should be an instant deal breaker.” You don’t want his baggage in your life.

4. Party Animal
Yep, single moms have every right to let their hair down and have a good time. But having a hangover and caring for a baby don’t mix. If your man thinks the ideal date is all-night clubbing with bottle service, he’s not going to be up for diaper changing at 5 a.m. Enough said.

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