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10 ways to celebrate solo moms on Father's Day

Dads deserve the glory today, but don't forget moms raising kids alone

Whether she's military wife with her husband deployed, or a mom without a partner for any number of reasons, solo moms deserve to be celebrated this Father's Day, too. Here are 10 things you can do to make a solo mom's day:

10. Ok, I know this is crazy-talk, but instead of texting her, give her a call just to say hi and let her drone on about whatever she wants. She'd love an ear that belongs to someone other than a 2-year old...

Gina Cohen

9. Ask her if she's doing something different with her skincare routine - she looks so young and radiant lately!

8. Offer to take her kids for just a couple of hours - long enough for her to enjoy a leisurely bath with a great book, take herself out for a manicure, or however she wants to spend some 'me time.'

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7. Is she a military wife? Find a cute photo you might've taken of her with her husband and frame it for her.

6. Go on Facebook and 'like' a photo of her kids she posts today. Better yet, comment on how great her kids are.

5. Is she on Twitter? Mention her in a post and tag it #fabumom

4. Post a really flattering photo of her on your Facebook page and share your appreciation of her general awesomeness. Emphasis on flattering photo here, people.

3. Are your kids friends with her kids? Ask them all to come over for a playdate. Supply chocolate cake. For the mom.

2. Plant flowers in her yard. Trust me, she wishes she had the time to do it herself.

1. Leave some brownies at her doorstep. Or a bottle of wine. Or brownies AND a bottle of wine. Yeah, leave both.

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Jun 19, 2013 8:34PM
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Actually If your the only one around in your kids life then you do deserve the credit whether your a father or mother and maybe saying happy mothers day to a dad or happy fathers day to a mom is off but the point is taken that the person there deserves the respect.
Jun 19, 2013 8:31PM
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Wow very intriguing p.o.v.'s but i do have to say one thing my issue is that soo many dads dont want to have anyone steal thier title of dad but when it comes to being a dad they dont want any part of that . My daughters father is a great example of that one. He doesn't want to be around but wants to take the credit of being a dad. He went on to have other kids with his current wife but seems to have forgotten what he started with his 1st wife and the sperm he decided to donate to make our kid. Anyhow on mothers day and fathers day single parents should get a hug b/c they are the only ones there. Just b/c you gave a kid your last name doesn't mean your being a dad . And if you want to keep having kids with everyone which is netiher here nor their then you have to love each one not oh well it didn't work out with the mother next........ So my issue is if you want the title and the love then you have to put in the hrs. And im sure i'll get some grief on what im about to say but child support you feel it shouldn't be your responsibility to help well then tell me whose responsibility is it> ? Well if you want to make babies then take care of them and no im not just talking about money. It is really messed up to have a kid throw it away or shall i say become a deadbeat and then keep going and then its the same thing over and over again. Children are not disposable.
Jun 15, 2013 2:25PM
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Dear "Gentlemen": Jeremy McClaren (jeremy iowa) Braveheart 720, JWT503, HardLook, Common sense blue collar guy, Colton Grundy, Walter Peterson, lac0423

Thank you for your insightful comments and disparaging remarks, which speaks volumes of your character.

Not all women chose to be single.  A very good friend of mine lost the love of her life, when her husband died suddenly of a massive heart attack at 44, leaving her to raise 2 young children on her own.  She didn't know what to do, she didn't know how to be a Father - she was a Mom.

It's been three years now, and she is doing a great job filling both roles.  She works full time, supporting her children - without any assistance, has become an excellent handyman, coach and mechanic.

Hope you all have a wonderful fathers day and get the attention and praise you think you deserve.  I will be acknowledging the "real" fathers on fathers day, even if some of them are women, because your gender doesn't make you a father, your action and words do.
Jun 14, 2013 3:51PM
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I'm going to get bashed here.  But my son is a single parent.  I gave him a mother's day present.  He is mother and father to my grandchildren.  It wasn't a large present, but he got it.

 

His ex wife is an idiot and should not of had a mother's day.  She is no mother. My son is the kids's mother.

 

I was a single parent too.  I always bought myself a father's present because I was mother and father.  The kids had no right to be with their idiot father that only saw them when he felt the need (when he needed to make an impression with other people)  So if someone wants to have single mother's day on father's day, then good on them.

Jun 14, 2013 2:08PM
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I've seen some daft articles on MSN, but this one takes the cake.  Do words mean nothing anymore?  Mom = Mom.  Dad = Dad.  Glad to see the author got one thing right: this is crazy-talk.  
Jun 14, 2013 1:55PM
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It's not about taking anything away from the Father's or hating men.  I think the point is that not everyone has/had a father growing up.  My mom was both mother & father to the six of us after my father died.  My youngest brother had just started elementary school.  My mother had to teach my brothers how to be men the best she could.  It takes nothing away from fathers..it just acknowledge that moms are often both and vice versus.  We visit my father's grave and reminisce about him, because he is always with us and to share with our his grandchildren the man he was.  But it was, and continue to be our mother, who fulfills that role everyday since he passed away over 30 years ago.  For the fathers that are actually fathers and not just sperm donors...Happy Father's Day.  For the men and women who fill both roles Happy Father's Day too.
Jun 14, 2013 1:49PM
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As a solo mother, I do not agree with being honored on Father's Day! Father's Day is for "Real" dads! I say dads and not fathers because any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad!

For those of you who say Mother's Day is for honoring solo moms. Well, not really... Most kids between the ages of birth and 13 do not understand nor have the means to honor their mothers on Mother's Day. For example, my Mother's Day this year consisted of me paying for myself and my son to go out to eat with my Mother and Grandmother. I honored my mother and grandmother with gifts and a meal. Did I get anything? No... I didn't even get a "Happy Mother's Day" said to me.

Yes you can say it is my choice to be a solo mom. I choose to have a baby with my husband. I also choose to leave my husband after a horrible incident.  However, I did not choose for my husband to not have anything to do with his child after our divorce. Matter-of-fact, I have done everything in my power to try to get support from the jerk.

So instead of honoring solo moms on Father's Day; how about every now and then, on any day, try some of the things above! I know I would love to have an adult conversation about life with someone besides my co-workers. Or free-time to my self without a kid tagging along. Or flowers... flowers that I didn't buy for myself... that would be nice. But not on Father's Day!

How about doing something for solo dads on Father's Day or any day of the year! I am sure they need some me time or their lawn mowed or grown up conversation!
Jun 14, 2013 1:49PM
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I don't remember anyone mentioning honoring Fathers on Mothers Day! There are a lot of single fathers out there now and...what we don't deserve the same credit?
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